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#58, April 30th 2024
Hey Shani,
Why does it still sting when people makes comments about me that I know aren’t true?
Hey You,
Because you’re human. That’s why.
I will go further into detail, I actually think it’s kind of insulting when people have seemingly simple answers for things that cause complex feelings so I won’t do that to you. Life is harder when it feels like no one really knows you, and harder still when it feels like nobody believes you. We shouldn’t have to live like that, but unfortunately people are going to think what they want to think and say what they want to say. So it becomes less about them, and more about our own mindset, which I hope is comforting to you because you have way more control over than than you do over other people’s opinions.
When people believe things about you that aren’t true, you can feel trapped and frantic, as though you must change their mind and convince them to believe the truth, or risk moving through life with shame. I have been there many times. Try to remember something: Their incorrect assumptions are not your job. You don’t work for their mindset. And certainly not for free. They don’t own your energy, and you don’t have to carry the shame they pile on top of you. Here, I’ll try to make you believe me: